A very special congrats on my friends Brent and Sandy. Miss Kaleigh is going to be a big sister! They just started their journey to adopt their second daughter from China Courtney Grace.
Monday, December 7, 2009
Congrats Brent and Sandy!
A very special congrats on my friends Brent and Sandy. Miss Kaleigh is going to be a big sister! They just started their journey to adopt their second daughter from China Courtney Grace.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Have you heard this one?
A princess is walking in the desert and sees an injured snake on the ground, very close to death. She carefully picks it up, puts it in her basket and takes it home.
She nurses the snake back to health, giving it the best food, spending money on the best doctors, tending to it for hours every day.
One day she opens the snake's basket to give it some food and it bites her on the hand. As she lay dying from the poison, she cries out, "My beloved snake! I have fed and nursed you, brought you back to health from certain death in the desert! Why have you stricken me so?!"
And the snake replies, "Bitch you knew I was a snake."
The moral of the story?
What do you think?
She nurses the snake back to health, giving it the best food, spending money on the best doctors, tending to it for hours every day.
One day she opens the snake's basket to give it some food and it bites her on the hand. As she lay dying from the poison, she cries out, "My beloved snake! I have fed and nursed you, brought you back to health from certain death in the desert! Why have you stricken me so?!"
And the snake replies, "Bitch you knew I was a snake."
The moral of the story?
What do you think?
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Happy Thanksgiving!
Spending the week at my Great Aunts home. So very Thankful that I got a job! I will start next week as an office manager at a small dental practice in Bloomington.
PS: I made a cranberry apple pie! {A Thanksgiving miracle!} And I bought an ice scraper. It is winter here. burrrrrrr.
Monday, November 23, 2009
As a SUDC parent- 32 months after.
Let's start with the 7 Stages of Grief...
1. SHOCK & DENIAL-
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.
2. PAIN & GUILT-
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.
You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.
You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair.
4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.
During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.
7 Stages of Grief...
5. THE UPWARD TURN-
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.
6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.
7 stages of grief...
You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future. Eventually, you will be able to think about your lost loved one without pain; sadness, yes, but the wrenching pain will be gone. You will once again anticipate some good times to come, and yes, even find joy again in the experience of living.
The weird part about grief is facing your demons and your dreams. I'm going through a lot of changes in my life... it is so hard. I'm somewhere between stages 3-4.
I find myself so angry... at Kyan.
Why did he have to die?
Why did he leave me?
If he was here I wouldn't be where I am today.
Why, why, why????
It is NOT fair.
Don't worry too much for me because I know there is going to be an upward turn as noted above.
1. SHOCK & DENIAL-
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.
2. PAIN & GUILT-
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.
You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.
You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair.
4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.
During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.
7 Stages of Grief...
5. THE UPWARD TURN-
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.
6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.
7 stages of grief...
You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future. Eventually, you will be able to think about your lost loved one without pain; sadness, yes, but the wrenching pain will be gone. You will once again anticipate some good times to come, and yes, even find joy again in the experience of living.
The weird part about grief is facing your demons and your dreams. I'm going through a lot of changes in my life... it is so hard. I'm somewhere between stages 3-4.
I find myself so angry... at Kyan.
Why did he have to die?
Why did he leave me?
If he was here I wouldn't be where I am today.
Why, why, why????
It is NOT fair.
Don't worry too much for me because I know there is going to be an upward turn as noted above.
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Homesick
Anyone have a pill that cures homesickness???
I need that prescription filled.
Paula called me today & we must be on the same cosmic wave because today we should be hanging out like when I lived there.
Sad day.
Good news is that I have a job interview tomorrow for a office manager position for a Dr I used to work with.
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